Sometimes two sets of needs conflict so directly that it's obvious that both can't be satisfied. That can make for a contentious argument with the potential to deeply undermine a relationship.
Sometimes, though, it's obvious to anyone with the slightest ability to look at a situation objectively which set of needs shouldn't - or can't - submit to the other. In these situations, it falls to the other person to, first of all, recognize the truth. We often get so wrapped up in the plan we've developed to meet our own needs that we perform great feats of emotional gymnastics to convince ourselves that we are right and the other is being unreasonably demanding. But when we see that isn't the case, it gets way easier to yield. The challenge can be to do so without fomenting resentment, both immediately and in the longer term.
It can be kind of humorous when the other person seems geared up for an argument that they don't get. The room can resound with conflict scenarios until the self-fulfilling prophecy dynamic has a chance to dissipate. Patience becomes important.
Hopefully not to be continued . . .
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