I don't agree that it has been okay for you to have some of the conversations you've had with Brad. I understand your motivations, which is what has kept me from being angrier about the situation as a whole. But just because you "have a right to talk to anyone" doesn't mean it is right to talk to anyone about anything. There are serious boundary violations in there. I'm pretty sure that anyone who sees that thread would agree that you have meddled in something that we should not have been in the middle of. Getting a blanket generalized approval about who you "can or cannot communicate with," so that you can feel self-righteous about this is a fine way of defending the indefensible. I know that you were trying to act in what you see as Hannah's best interest, but you have been way out of line.

No, I don't blame Cassie for never trusting you about anything again.

No, I don't hold her blameless in your relationship. But when did you revert to junior high school?