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Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. So (also) husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. "For this reason a man shall leave (his) father and (his) mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church. In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself. - Eph 5, 25-33a

I know what this scripture means.  It means that I am to love my bride as Christ loves me, and here's how that was: knowing in advance how he would be condemned for our sake, fully seeing how he would suffer on our behalf, Jesus still chose to leave the throne of grace to be rejected by us.  He loved us so much that he embraced the opportunity to be hurt by us, so that he might win us over by his love, even though we killed him. He never turned away from us; even when scorned and rejected throughout his life, even when mocked and beaten and scourged and nails driven through his flesh and crucified to death, he embraced us in love.

I must continue to love even when - no matter how - the one I love hurts me.