Okay, I know that it can be hard to recognize or understand the narcissistic abuse that underlies our son-in-law's seemingly righteous indignation. But really, there was no need for mom to attend a wrestling meet - even a major one - on dad's weekend when a) there's a meet every weekend, and b) she had legitimate plans on that day to do something that needed to be done - in this case moving out, which you very well understand needed to be taken care of on dad's weekend. And we ought not think for a moment that their oldest daughter's anger at her mother the next morning over this incident was anything less than a reflection of dad's complaining to the kids about their mom, trying to convince them that she doesn't love them enough to put them first. So stop taking his side. Sometimes he's right, but even when he is he's still ultimately just being controlling. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it.
On a different topic: don't go shouting hallelujahs when your phone rings at 5 a.m. with a notification that the school is on a delay, because it finally worked. For starters, you don't freaking need to know that anymore. Secondly, I thought we'd already agreed that my need to sleep at that hour outweighs your need to not have to go to all. the. trouble. of checking a website when you wake up.
You don't work for a living; you can sleep in as late as you want after being awakened at 5 o'clock in the morning. I've never had that luxury. If you want to keep getting those calls, let me know and I'll start sleeping in another room. You just decide which is more important to you and let me know.
And no, I'm not going to assume you're going to see this here. I will be sure to discuss it with you in person, and will try to be less snarky about it when I do.
The actual conversations went much better. I'm okay with you getting those calls if you're going to keep the phone ringer off at night..
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