What to do when two coworkers are amiably agreeing that the same dysfunctional behavior in which a good friend's husband engages on a regular basis is actually an appropriate way for the one of them to behave?
Keep my mouth shut unless my opinion is solicited, I suppose.
The thing is, even if another family member is the one with the primary problem, there are things we can do that will help create an environment that will make it easier for them to deal with it versus things that make matters worse for them. Healthy people seek the former, within reason. Unhealthy people are unwilling or unable to consider which category their interactions fall into, no matter how those around them may be affected.
I may have a right, in my home and when dealing with an adult son or daughter, to behave as I wish according to standards that society would generally hold as reasonable. But when that son or daughter has challenges, forcing on them things that should work for most people is a rather short-sighted approach.
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