A (not song) snippet or two from life, lately

Nominally related?

• The most striking thing about my life during my wife's recovery from surgery may be how little it changed from before.
   
• I have to stop thinking that I don't believe in Hawaii.  Putting away some decorating empties (boxes, light reels) at lunch time, I nearly missed a step on the stairs - barely got enough of my right heel on it to support myself - which may well have self-fulfilled that thought.  But it has come to represent a sort of terrestrial paradise in my mind, even if a temporary one for me.
   
• We make time for the things that are important to us and for the people we love. When someone doesn't have time for us but that makes sense for the limited role we should have in their lives, it feels right and appropriate; there's a confidence that time may eventually allow us to reconnect.  When you can tell someone is making an effort to fit you into their lives, at least as much as they can, it feels affirming.  But when someone whose life we clearly should fit into doesn't have - doesn't make- time for us, it is hard to describe how deeply it hurts.  This contrast is pretty clear for me right now.