Conflict gripes

Gripe #1:
When you came back in as I was dumping the water out of the frying pan with the bratwurst, I explained that they were done and I wanted to brown them.  This was after I checked their firmness, which was way better than it had been ten minutes before.  By this point they'd been boiling for ten solid minutes after the first time I checked them on coming in the door, when they had already obviously been cooking for several minutes.

I realize that you're paranoid about food being done, and that we have had issues with sausages in the past.  However, there is really no need to check every bite as you're eating. And when I finally ask if it's done, knowing full well that it's done as there wasn't even the slightest hint of "not done" in mine and there was no way for them to get unequally done (as there would have been had we grilled them), be sure to give me a disdainful, "Barely," implying that I did something wrong at some point here. I suppose you thought I was suggesting that you did, maybe you thought I was suggesting you were overcooking them, but no, I was just taking care of things because you were out of the kitchen.

But for the record: no, they weren't "barely" done. They were done.  Like I said.

(Of course, I understand that the world would surely end if you just conceded that I was right about something.)

Gripe #2:
Okay, and this is why I didn't want to cosign this loan.  Your very first payment is now awaiting the selling of your old car?  That money is supposed to come out of your mid-month paycheck every month, and you agreed that would start this month, since the first payment is due before the middle of next month. Where has your mid-month paycheck gone such that you can't make your car payment from it?  How is next month's mid-month paycheck not going to go the same place? You've been putting in all kinds of overtime.  And the money you got from selling your old car was supposed to come to us, to put toward what we loaned you for previous work on your old car, not make your new car payment.

I am not going to jump your case about this. Your mom seems to think I shouldn't be concerned and I'm going to follow her suggestion on how you should handle your monthly payment.  I am, however, taking the opportunity to grumble here instead where you'll never see it.  I'm concerned about how you're starting out, and I can only barely manage the faintest hope that it might not be a sign of things to come.  And I am absolutely going to make sure you don't mess up my credit.



This was not a fun evening.