I'm thinking that the best way for me to make someone feel appreciated for doing a big chore would not be to walk in the front door, say "oh wow, good job, thanks," then leave another time-sensitive chore for them to take care of while I go watch television.
I was pretty miffed by this turn of events last night, and had a bit of the anger left over this morning. Still, at no point did I really express my anger to her; it seemed to me as if I should sit on it a bit and wait for some perspective. In retrospect, I'm glad I did, though I do think we're going to need to talk about this incident at some point now that the energy has dissipated from it. Otherwise it might come back in unfair ways.
Meanwhile, we get the benefit of reconciling without having really had a fight . . .
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